Sometimes you just wish that you could just turn back time and redo the mistakes that you have done, but sometimes what we don't think about is how those mistake made us stronger and wiser on decision making and life it self!
Although this doesn't make it oukay for us to make DUMB mistakes in our life and destroy ourselves for the rest of our life just because there is a saying "There's a 1st time for everything", that is true, but sometimes we can avoid them by knowing it beforehand!
I will tell a story about a young girl who made a mistake and completely letting herself down after.
JUST FOR INFORMATION, THE GIRL IS NOT ME!!!
IT'S A FICTIONAL CHARACTER OF MIXTURE OF THE GIRLS I HAVE MET IN MY LIFE!
She is only a teenager, and as we know it all teenagers - especially international ones, are most likely LOVES to go out and have fun! Unfortunately she doesn't have a limit of her "fun". Influences in International connection is very strong, so she started to drink and go out every night on the weekends.
She used to wear shorts that goes to your knee or skirt and long sleeved top or tank top but covered with cardigan, she always asks whether she should wear a short skirt and a tank top without cardigan and if her friend(s) says yes, she would disagree and wear the cardigan to cover her self.
She used to hate the taste of beer and strong liquer that she ends up buying sprite or share an alcoholic drink with her friend.
She used to hate the smoke up in her face and the after-taste of smoking.
She used to hate people who does drugs.
She used to hate how people only lives up for popularity and be called hot when they are not and just nothing but bunch of sluts!
One day the girl got lucky and hit jackpot where she found an advantage of getting more guys, more friends and more popularity by showing more cleavage or skin and wear high heels. Now she hooks up, drinks, shows off cleavage, trying to be friends with the popular people, smoking up to peoples face, starts to do drugs and leaves her own bestfriend(s) for new friends who may not be as true as her old friend(s).
When she is down and upset, she runs back to her old friend(s), because party people are not so much of real friend(s) - i'm not saying that there are none, but there is only one in a million. Although when her friend(s) are giving good suggestions, she looks away, walks away and not taking anything from the suggestions, and all she says to her friend(s) is something like "you're wrong!" or "You don't know! you're not me (or her or him)!", she doesn't want to accept the real facts, she only wants to hear what she WANTS to hear.
That's when she runs back to her party friends where they will say what she wants to hear - that's not good!
What's worse is that none of her parent(s) knows about her night life and or party life with the wrong people who influenced her.
Now she is emotionally negative, mentally negative and her life is nothing but NEGATIVE!
Everyone thinks that she is nothing but a slut, a druggie, alcoholic, she even being called not a virgin, well other things you name them! She has no REAL friend(s) anymore from the actions she has chosen to do, all her friends - party friends and her real friend(s) doesn't want to be with her and none misses her
One day her parent(s) found out the things that she has done and decides to move away (school, home, country, whatever) just to make her "clean" from all the sh*t she has done.
Now everyday she complains and mourns about how she has no friends back home or at her new place, she complains how everything doesn't go how she wants them to be, she mourns how she misses how everything used to be and she is nothing but lonely without anyone who wants her...
So, that was the story of the girl who lost everything from HER OWN actions. She can't retrieve back her old friend(s) without doubts in their hearts, she has to show and work her ass off to put the trust back onto her parent(s) heart before she can have back her freedom and she has to start all over again when she could have work it less.
So the lesson here is that you can make small mistakes, because you learn from them and make you better, but when you already know the consequences and that it is too risky and that it would harm you for the rest of your life, think twice and long before anything bad happens!
"Like a butterfly flaps its wings, it could change change everything" - Chaos theory
